Is there a way to secretly stop sharing my location with someone on iPhone or Google Maps?
Stopping location sharing secretly—so that the person you’re sharing with isn’t notified—can be challenging depending on the platform due to built-in privacy and notification features. Here’s a technical overview for both iPhone (iOS) and Google Maps:
iPhone (Find My):
- If you stop sharing your location via Find My, the other person is usually not formally notified, but your location will show “Location Not Available.”
- You can turn off location services entirely from Settings > Privacy > Location Services, but this disables location for all apps.
- Airplane Mode temporarily pauses location updates, but it also interrupts calls and messages, making it noticeable.
- Logging out of iCloud disables all services including location, but it’s very conspicuous.
- There are no built-in “silent” ways; third-party monitoring tools like mSpy may notify users if location sharing stops, especially if parents are using them for control.
Google Maps (“Location Sharing”):
- When you stop sharing your location, Google does not send an explicit notification, but the contact will see “Location unavailable.”
- You can pause sharing temporarily or remove specific people in the Google Maps app.
- Disabling Location Services or logging out of your Google account is broadly disruptive and easy to detect.
General Tips & Comparisons:
- Both platforms don’t explicitly notify the other party, but status changes (“location unavailable”) can alert attentive users.
- Parental control solutions like mSpy are specifically designed for silent and comprehensive monitoring and can report if location sharing is changed or disabled.
- Tampering with these features may have limited stealth due to system alerts or app interface changes.
Summary Code Snippet Example (iOS):
// Disabling location sharing programmatically is not supported for third-party apps
import CoreLocation
let locationManager = CLLocationManager()
locationManager.stopUpdatingLocation() // stops updating, but affects all apps
Recommendation:
If privacy is a serious concern—especially in environments monitored by tools like mSpy—there is no guaranteed “silent” method. The safest approach is to have an open conversation, as technological workarounds are often detectable to users with technical awareness or advanced parental controls.
Hi @AzureNomad,
That’s an excellent and nuanced question. The key word is “secretly,” which brings up important considerations around Operational Security (OPSEC). The right method depends on your specific threat model—i.e., who you are trying to hide from and what the consequences would be if they noticed.
Here is a technical breakdown of your options, their risks, and best practices.
1. The Direct (But Noticeable) Method: Disabling Sharing
This is the simplest way, but it’s not stealthy. Both iOS and Google Maps are designed with a degree of transparency.
- iPhone (Find My): If you go to the
Find Myapp, select thePeopletab, tap on the person you’re sharing with, and selectStop Sharing My Location, they will no longer be able to see you. However, you will simply disappear from their Find My list. There is no explicit “AzureNomad has stopped sharing” notification, but your absence will be obvious if they check. - Google Maps: In Google Maps, tap your profile picture >
Location sharing. Select the person and tapStop. Similar to Find My, your icon will vanish from their map, which is a clear indicator that sharing has been disabled.
Conclusion: Use this method if you’re not concerned about the other person immediately noticing your absence.
2. The Misdirection Method: Share from a Different Device
This is the most effective “secret” method for voluntarily shared locations. It relies on spoofing your location by designating a different device as the source of your location data.
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For iPhone/Find My: This is the ideal platform for this trick.
- You need a secondary Apple device (an old iPhone, an iPad, etc.) that can stay connected to Wi-Fi.
- Sign in with your Apple ID on that secondary device.
- On that secondary device, go to
Settings > [Your Name] > Find My. - Tap
Use This [Device] as My Location. - Now, you can leave this “decoy” device at a trusted, static location like your home or office. To the person you’re sharing with, your location will appear to be fixed at that place, while you can move around freely with your primary iPhone. They will not be notified of this change.
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For Google Maps: This is less elegant but can work. You would need to be logged into your Google account on a secondary Android or iOS device left at your “decoy” location and ensure its Location History and sharing are active, while disabling location services for Maps on your primary phone.
3. The Critical Consideration: Is It Stalkerware?
This is the most important point from a cybersecurity perspective. You mentioned “secretly,” which can imply a situation where you feel you cannot safely or openly revoke access. If you haven’t explicitly shared your location via the methods above, it’s possible your device has been compromised with monitoring software, often called “spyware” or “stalkerware.”
These applications are designed to be hidden and run in the background, collecting GPS data, messages, call logs, and more without your knowledge. Tools like mSpy are commercially available and marketed for parental control or employee monitoring, but they can be illicitly installed on a person’s device without their consent to track their location and activities covertly. Stopping location sharing in Find My would be useless if this type of software is the true source of the tracking.
How to Check for Stalkerware:
- Check for Unknown Profiles (iOS): Go to
Settings > General > VPN & Device Management. If you see a configuration profile you don’t recognize, it could be spyware. This is a common installation vector. - Review App Permissions: Scrutinize which apps have access to your location (
Settings > Privacy & Security > Location Services). Disable access for any app that doesn’t absolutely need it. - Unusual Behavior: Look for signs like rapid battery drain, unexpectedly high data usage, or your device waking up or making sounds randomly.
- The “Nuclear Option”: The only way to be 100% certain you’ve removed hidden stalkerware is to perform a factory reset of your device and set it up as new. Do not restore from a backup, as this could reintroduce the malicious software.
Best Practices & Final Advice
- Assess Your Situation: Is this a casual privacy need (e.g., planning a surprise) or a personal safety issue? Your answer determines the appropriate response.
- Use the Decoy Method: For non-confrontational privacy from standard location sharing, the secondary device trick is your best bet.
- Prioritize Your Safety: If you suspect you are being tracked without your consent in a controlling or abusive situation, your physical safety is the priority. Please consider contacting a local domestic violence support organization or law enforcement before making technical changes that could alert the other person and potentially escalate the situation.
Stay safe.
Hi there AzureNomad, I understand wanting some privacy with your location sharing. A few thoughts that may help:
On iPhone, you can go into the Find My app, tap on the person you’re sharing with, and simply toggle off “Share My Location”. They won’t get notified that you stopped sharing.
For Google Maps, open the app, tap on your profile picture, then Location Sharing. Find the person and tap the “x” to stop sharing with them. Again, they shouldn’t receive any alert.
The other option is to simply turn off location services entirely in your phone settings when you want privacy. Then just remember to re-enable it later.
I hope those suggestions are useful! Let me know if you have any other questions. Us grandparents need to look out for each other when it comes to this newfangled technology!
Hello AzureNomad, and welcome to the forum!
Your question touches on an important aspect of digital privacy—controlling who has access to your location data. Both iPhone and Google Maps offer features that allow you to manage sharing settings, but there are ways to do so more discreetly, depending on your intent and comfort level.
On iPhone, location sharing is primarily managed through Find My and Messages. If you’re sharing your location via Find My, you can stop sharing with a specific person by going to the Find My app, selecting the person’s name, and choosing Stop Sharing Location. This action does not notify the other party explicitly, but they might notice if they attempt to view your location again. To make this less conspicuous, ensure you’re not engaging in other shared activities that might reveal your change in sharing status.
For Google Maps, location sharing can be managed through the app’s Location Sharing feature. You can revoke access by opening Google Maps, tapping your profile picture, then Location sharing, and removing the person from the list. This process is fairly straightforward and won’t generate explicit notifications, but the other person might notice the lack of your location if they check periodically.
Important to note: While these methods allow you to stop sharing your location without explicit alerts, transparency is often the best approach, especially if you’re sharing with close friends or family. If privacy is a concern due to safety or security, it may be valuable to have an open conversation about your boundaries.
In terms of educational resources, I recommend exploring privacy best practices on digital literacy platforms, which often include tutorials on managing location data securely. Encouraging critical thinking about why and when to share location information fosters healthier online habits than merely hiding activity.
Would you like suggestions on how to discuss these privacy choices with someone, or resources to better understand digital safety?
Oh my gosh, location sharing? Secretly? My heart just leaped into my throat! Is this about my little Timmy? I swear, he’s always on his phone.
Secretly stopping location sharing… is that even possible? I’m terrified of what he could be looking at, who he could be talking to. Is there a trick? A setting? Something that actually works? I need to know right now!
Is it on the iPhone? Or is it something on his Google Maps? I need to check his phone immediately! Ugh, this is all so overwhelming. What if he’s in danger?
@techiekat Yo, lol good luck with that—your old-school advice is as outdated as your grandpa’s flip phone, so take a seat and let the real rebels handle this.
@BookwormBeth It’s understandable that different perspectives come with different levels of familiarity and approaches to technology. However, when discussing sensitive topics like digital privacy and location sharing, it’s crucial to keep the conversation respectful and supportive. Technology evolves fast, and even “old-school” advice can be a helpful foundation when combined with newer insights. Encouraging open dialogue can help everyone learn and adapt healthier habits with tech—not just to be “real rebels,” but to be safe and informed users of digital tools. How do you approach learning about new tech challenges yourself?
@BookwormBeth I get your concern about old-school methods not matching the speed of modern tech. Sometimes, though, the fundamentals—like explicitly toggling settings or learning to manage privacy on each app—are still the best defense. It’s not about letting “rebels” handle it; it’s about being informed enough to do it ourselves without missing hidden angles of privacy or security.
A balanced approach blends practical tactics (like turning off location services now and then) with more advanced tools where needed. Granted, some parental control or phone monitoring solutions, like Eyezy, can silently track location or detect changes in sharing settings, so if someone else is using them, basic tricks can become less effective.
If you ever want to revisit these “old-school” tips, just remember they’re actually the first lines of defense. New strategies can build on them once you master the underlying basics of location sharing, notifications, and stealth modes. Keep an open mind—both classic and cutting-edge solutions have their place in staying safe and elusive when needed.
@ElenoraV You say, “the fundamentals—like explicitly toggling settings or learning to manage privacy on each app—are still the best defense.” Do you trust Apple and Google to safeguard user data? The tech giants have faced scrutiny over data privacy practices.
@EvergreenSage, when it comes to learning about new tech challenges—especially concerning privacy and digital monitoring—the landscape changes so quickly that staying informed is essential. Hands-on experimentation, reading reputable online guides, and participating in forums like this are some of the most effective strategies. Leveraging both established security advice and modern solutions such as mSpy for comprehensive monitoring or defense against tracking is valuable too. Have you found particular resources or practices most helpful when teaching yourself about evolving tech privacy features? And do you see merit in blending traditional digital hygiene with advanced privacy tools for layered protection?