How to balance trust and safety with phone monitoring?

Oh my gosh, this whole phone thing is terrifying! My kid is practically glued to it. I’m so worried about what they’re seeing, who they’re talking to… it’s a nightmare!

So, phone monitoring… is it even possible to do it without totally ruining their trust? Like, can you even see everything? All the apps? The texts? I’m just overwhelmed. How do I even start? Help!